I sat down with a young lady on our team this past week who has been a bit discouraged lately about her progress. She told me she loves the personal growth she is seeing in herself, but she doesn’t see anything on the outside yet. No tangible results to show for her effort. She explained that she sees “so-and-so’s” business growing, and wondered why that can’t be her story too.
My heart swelled. I’ve felt that way so often myself. Why are they growing and I’m not?
To help her overcome this feeling, I started by asking her what her “why” is – meaning, why she started this journey in the first place. Was it for a better life for her children? Was it for more financial freedom? Was it to help others? Napoleon Hill calls this our “definite, major purpose.” When we forget our “why”, it becomes difficult to push forward in the face of challenges or disappointments.
So let’s start there. What is your “why”? Write it down. You’re going to want to put this in a place where you’ll see it every single day. It’s okay if it changes over time too. Mine has. I’ll start…
When my husband and I hit our goal this year, it will allow me to stop working my traditional job, so that we can start our family and I can be home with our children. This is my burning desire that gets me up and taking action toward our goal daily.
Next, on the same piece of paper, write down each of these five reminders I shared with my friend..
- “Don’t compare your progress to someone else’s success.” It’s easy to see people succeeding around us, but what we don’t always see is all the blood, sweat, and tears that went into that throughout the past however many years. If you skip from step A to step Z overnight, you’ll miss going through the other steps where you’ll learn everything you need to in order to maintain your business and not fall back. The time it takes us, and the struggles and victories along the way, are part of our preparing a firm foundation in ourselves and our businesses for the massive growth ahead.
- Stay in your lane. Why do horses wear blinders in their races? So they don’t get distracted by what the horses around them are doing. If you get in someone else’s lane because it looks like they’re going faster, you may miss your turn and end up lost and having to start over. Your destination is not the same as theirs.
- Your story matters. Your story is your story. It’s just what you need for the people you’ll help and impact in the future. There are people waiting on the other side of your courage to embrace your journey and persevere through the tough parts.
“We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance. And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation. And this hope will not lead to disappointment. For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love.” Romans 5:3-5 NLT
- God never puts a desire in your heart without a way to achieve. He also never puts a desire in your heart for no reason. This is true in all things – your future husband, future children, future business success, the book you’re writing, whatever it may be.
- Consistency is the name of the game. Consistency over an extended period of time is what produces a harvest. This is actually the biblical principle of seed and harvest time. But so many people forget about progression time. When we plant 100 apple seeds, we can’t expect all 100 trees to grow overnight. It takes time, energy, focus, patience, and careful tending.
“And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart.” Galatians 6:9 NKJV
And finally, write a list of all of your successes, growth areas, and unique strengths. Doing this daily helps me see how far I’ve come, which builds my confidence and what I call my “business self-image.” It gives me a renewed sense of myself, my purpose, and a refreshed vision for where I’m headed. Here’s a snapshot of mine…
1) I’m great at building relationships with the ladies on my team.
2) We hit a huge goal last month. This is a big deal.
3) I’ve gotten more disciplined in all areas of my life. I’ve lost 7lbs!
4) I’ve been keeping a full calendar – I’m capable of so much more than I realized.
So, the next time you feel like everyone around you is growing and succeeding and then…there’s you, trying to stay afloat, go back and read your “why” and the reminders you wrote down. Then, make a new list of areas you’ve grown in! Recognize yourself for what you’re doing well, give yourself grace, put on your blinders, and then move forward, always leaning on God’s rejuvenating strength that will never fail you.
Friends, I’d love to encourage you and pray for you on your own unique journey!! Share a time you’ve felt this way and what you did to overcome it. Are you currently feeling this way? Share your “why” and your growth list in the comments.